Fear Of Failure

I'm a procrastinator, and I've come to the conclusion that my main reason for procrastination is fear . I'm afraid of not b...

I'm a procrastinator, and I've come to the conclusion that my main reason for procrastination is fear. I'm afraid of not being good enough, not being perfect, annoying people and primarily, I'm afraid of failure. To quote from Cara Alwill Leyba's book Fearless & Fabulous, "Having the guts to make mistakes and 'fail' is part of the process in gaining confidence" - how can you fail at something before you've even started, what if things go right?

I'm a major perfectionist in every aspect of life; I like things to be perfectly planned, set up, and organised before I even think about showing it to the world. If things don't go right straight away, I scrap it and start again - this process goes around and around, and because I'm a perfectionist I never get anything done because I'm never happy. To a certain extent, I've lost a little bit of that mentality with my blog, but recently I've gone through a bit of a rut where I'm not happy with anything I write. I'll be honest, I'm struggling with this post now, I'm thinking to myself "who am I to give a motivational post? Who am I to give advice on anything?". But why can't I? We won't know how good we are at something unless we try.

How can you fail at something that you've never tried? Try thinking of the word "failure" as "experience" or "learning curve" - for everything that seemingly doesn't work, you can use it as a learning experience; you know what doesn't work now, and you can use this experience as motivation to try again in a different way. If you don't try then how are you going to improve, and how are you going to find out what is right for you. Use your experiences to better you and better your work!

I've been reading a lot of self-development books recently which have helped me immensely with my mindset on these types of things. I'm a big believer in "The Law Of Attraction", the idea that like attracts like; if you think positively about your situation, positive things will happen, and on the flip side, thinking negatively will give the same back to you. I had an experience with this the other day...

I was at work when I smashed a glass water bottle on the edge of a table, causing it to pour everywhere, including on me. For the rest of the evening, I kept thinking that I had bad luck and was anticipating the next bad thing to happen, and I was right, lots of little things happened to me that evening. I put it down to my mindset and how I let my mind think negatively.

Now, I'm not a professional psychologist or anything of the sort, and you may just shoo shoo this away as hippy garbage, but I really think it helps. Take a negative situation, and no matter how hard it is, think of the positives you can take from it; writing it down helps me a lot. 

I just want you all to know that whatever it is that you want to do, or have been putting off doing, you can do and I am so incredibly certain that you can do it if you put your mind to it. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, definitely not, but you are more than capable of doing it. If you come across road blocks in the way, these are not signs that you need to stop, these are signs that you need to look for a different route around to get to your final destination. Don't be afraid of the unknown or of your "failures" because failure is proof that you tried, now go try again!

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